Blah-ging

Sorry for not posting for a bit. I've been a little busy/lazy/tired. I guess having to read all of those messages from admirers really takes a lot out of a girl.

I'm really excited about all of the comments on my poly posting. I think this is what blogs are really for - an exchange of ideas. I've learned so much since that posting. Thanks to everyone for putting in their two cents.

On the OKC front: I've been corresponding with my two lads in the UK and really enjoying it. As I mentioned before, they are very different. One is a bit Eeyore-like and the other more like Rabbit, I think. Eeyore is sweet and kind and a bit unsure about his place in the world. He likes talking about everyday things - I think they bring him comfort. I enjoy talking with him but I find that I don't write with the same humor as I do with others. Funny how that happens.

Rabbit has some bitterness in his life but uses his sense of humor to struggle through it. He is the writer of ghost stories and is studying for his Ph.D. in English. We write very silly messages and LOL is used a lot. The trouble is, he sent me a few of his stories and asked for some input. This is a problem as I am not one to hide my opinion about things (surprise, surprise) and I thought the stories had some flaws. Okay, that's being too kind - some of them were not too bad but two were really awful. I made what I thought were some constructive comments about the worst one and didn't say anything about the others. He assumed that this meant that I thought they were fine. Ack!! I think I'll have to ask him to stop sending me stories and switch to jewelry or chocolate instead.

On the flip side of this coin, I think by NiceGuy from Oregon is being just that - nice. He sent me a very sweet - maybe too sweet - message saying how lovely it is to chat with me and that he'll be busy this week and unable to write. When I checked the site this morning I noticed that he had time to post a rather long journal entry. I am pretty sure that he writes me just to be nice and doesn't want to hurt my feelings. How sad is that! Once, in my awkward youth, a friend of mine asked a boy I liked if he thought I was cute and his response was "she has good skin." This was kid code for "gag me." (bad flashback!) That's how NGs messages make me feel. Not ugly and awkward but just....not right.

It seems that my poly friend is the only one that I can be truly honest with! No chance of relationship so, nothing to hide or feel bad about. He wrote me to let me know that he and his partner had their au pair/girlfriend living with them now (she arrived from wherever it is they use to live) and so equilibrium has been achieved in his world. We still plan on getting together sometime but with the whole gang, I think. That should be fun! Nothing like being the fourth wheel with a threesome.

I am Kermit the Frog

I've started to really enjoy these little OKC tests. Some of the questions are outrageously funny or outrageously stupid. The shorter the better. Two more I took yesterday: What is Your Spirit Guide Animal? (Wolf - very hip) and What Seasame Street Character are You? (Kermie!). I like both of those outcomes, I think. Kermit is cool, right? I'm sure he's a Libra.

My child came back from vacation last night. Two weeks at grandmas was good but she was happy to be back with her dogs. Not back with me, mind you, but the dogs. They got a far more affectionate greeting than I did. I have to say that it did hurt my feelings just a bit, not that I was in any way surprised. She has always been better with animals than people but I gave birth to her for cryin' out loud! Long, painful, back-labor, c-section BIRTH!! I think I deserve a little hug and kiss now and then. (She did bring me a bag of LEGOs and some Jersey tomatoes.)

I'm humourous

62% Warmth, 50% Moisture

You are of the choleric temperament, ruled by the element of Fire. This humour's personality is usually active, energetic, hasty, and clever, but prone to foolishness through not taking the time to think. The medieval handbooks say that choleric people "have wine of the lion" - That is, they become angry and violent when drunk.

No, I don't! Really! I think I failed this test. Golden retrievers and otters are NOT angry drunks!

OKC update: The nice guy in Oregon that I thought was ignoring me has been writing to me. We had a very nice IM session this morning. (I love IM in the morning.) And then there is this kind of odd-in-a-good-way bloke in the UK who has been emailing me. I'm not sure why the 19-year-old from Kenmore sent me an email - maybe he thought I was his mom's friend or something. I don't even want to go there.

Like a virgin

I've done it. I've started sending some messages to people on okcupid. Now, because this is a new adventure, I tend to log in at least once or twice a day (or 10) to see what's happening and to take more "improve your matchability" tests and to check my mail. So far, I've only heard from two people - the bi-guy looking for friends (BG) and the somewhat normal guy (NG) looking to chat. BG and his partner have a kid and seem pretty nice but are just friend material. The NG guy also seems nice but just for chatting. I took the initiative and wrote to someone I thought might be fun guy (FG) but he hasn't returned the favor yet. If I don't receive a reply to a message sent, does it mean:

a] the guy is on vacation and hasn't read his mail in a while?
b] he has seen your profile/image and finds you repulsive?
c] he was injured in a sky diving accident in which he broke all the bones in his body and is having to peck out his messages with his nose and it's taking a very long time?
d] he has received SOOOOOOOO many "woo" messages that he just hasn't had time to respond to them all?
e] the idea of speaking to a woman with such impressive credentials as mine is intimidating and it's taking a while to come up with a clever enough message to impress me?
f] he choked on a turkey sandwich and is lying dead on his couch in front of the TV which is tuned to the porn channel?
f] zombies have taken over his neighborhood and he is holed up in his basement with nothing but a lighter and some Pez and is kicking himself for not getting wi-fi?

I hope it isn't [b] and if it's [f], I better get out the buzz saw and start boarding up my windows.

UPDATE: Oh my GOD! I think I just saw a photo of someone I know! He's the dad of one of my kid's friends. Oh noooooooooooooooooo!

What the.....

I have taken the advice of several friends and switched over to okcupid.com for my daily humiliation. It has been fun, so far, I must admit. I have received messages from a nice bisexual, polyamorous couple who are new to the area and want to make friends; a woo message from some guy named hornytom; a relatively normal message from a relatively normal person who wants to chat, and this guy (who, thank ALLAH, lives somewhere in NY):

it`s a plessure writting to know u nore. as a new friend, i read ur profile and i was overwhelmed with joy to see aperson of my kin and likeness, i will love to hear from u, pleased don`t feel embarrased, it is the feeling i got from ur profile. write me so we talk more better.
with regards from,
Enzo.

I'm a tolerant and open-minded person but how exactly am I "a person of his kin and likeness?????" I have GOT to get a better picture taken. (E! Help me out here!)